We live in a society that is paranoid at the thought of being alone. Most of us feel this overpowering compulsion to cling on to company whether we truly like it or not. So scared are we, at the thought of being left alone that we fail to comprehend anyoneâ€™s choice to remain secluded. We often take such people as a little daft or conveniently conclude that such people have unhappy lives and their inability to have a partner is something to feel sorry about. Such baseless standards put up by the society is maddening and detrimental in a way that makes us drift far away from ever knowing ourselves better in the pursuit of approval â€“ to fit in. Hereâ€™s how you become a different person when you spend time on your own: Your views are built unadulterated by the normsâ€¦ We learn a lot from our parents, our families but a lot of them must be unlearned as we move ahead. Your academic degrees are not enough to give you a solid perspective of life. It is with deep introspection that you eventually find out what your views are on delicate and complicated matters like relationships, sex, capitalism, religion, crime, punishment, rebellion, nationalism etc. You can either spend your time among people and develop a herd mentality on anything and everything or let your solitude analyse the nitty gritty of matters. You have learnt a lot from your parents, your teachers and friends but at the end of the day your thoughts must be free of the patronizing influences of the society. Your solitude lets you become a free, radical thinker.
Your inner conflicts thrive for a resolutionâ€¦
We all come with our demons, donâ€™t we? Scars of childhood, failures while growing up, the resentments mocked at, the heartbreaks, the ineluctable contrast of what life is to what could have been â€“ everybody is haunted. We let ourselves flanked by people to be distracted from the one unresolved issue thatâ€™s been burning in the deepest abyss of our hearts since ages.
We donâ€™t deal with it â€“ we live in denial because weâ€™re scared to analyse in-depth and face the truth. We donâ€™t realize that no matter how harsh it is, there is nothing sweeter in this world than the truth itself. Unless weâ€™re left with our shadows to undergo the catharsis, how can we emancipate ourselves?
The time of self analysisâ€¦
Greatness is hardly ever achieved without time taken to reflect upon our own selves. As we keep ourselves surrounded by like minded people we never really find the time to analyse ourselves because in our conveniently chosen peer groups, we end up engaging in idle chat, gossiping, eating, drinking, making merry and even arguing on politics and economics without ever reaching anywhere fruitful. We either become each otherâ€™s soothsayers or just agree to disagree at the end of such layman discourses. What do we take home from such rants â€“ confounded shallowness, thatâ€™s what.
On the other hand, solitude lets you question yourself and there is nobody to win an argument over. If you lose a debate against yourself, youâ€™re still the winner. The courage taken to criticize your own self will never be wasted â€“ it will reflect on your work.