In a few days, well will be celebrating a week of love. Roses, chocolates, flowers and cards – the gift industry is going to make great business. There’s going to be love in the air and we’re going to be holding hands and all that jazz but not some us. This is not about glorifying single-hood as a means to console those who don’t have a valentine. This is still about love but darker. The context of Valentine’s Day is brought only because the darkness of such love seems deeper in contrast to the pink and red of the season. Let’s talk about such love that’s not meant to be, not to be gratified, never to liberate and will always leave you dry.

When you’re a monogamous partner in an open-relationship

You can’t really complaint for it’s not cheating when it’s not a secret anymore. It may have started differently but eventually, you both have agreed to be in an open-relationship. You never really wished for it from your heart, but you agreed anyway. Your partner always had a foot outside the door and you didn’t have much of a choice.

You thought it was just a proposition, agreed upon it thinking your selflessness would be appreciated. But hey, you fooled yourself, didn’t you? Now you doubt if you were well rounded enough to be fulfill every need of your partner. You even convinced yourself that you have a deeper, more profound understanding of love this way. Yet You have been crying yourself to sleep lately.

Love for abusive partners

You’ve been wearing a lot of scarves and unusually large sunglasses lately. Your friends and colleagues have started making fun of your fashion sense and all you do is fake a laughter at their jokes hoping the topic passes by.

It’s been a while since the abuses started and you know that if you showed the bruises to anyone, they’d ask you to break free of the relationship. However, you know it’s harder than that. You have invested too and you just can’t let it all go and it’s not even necessary that you rely on your partner for survival. You have been innovating sins that you must have committed in the past to deserve this.