It might be 2014 but when it comes to marriage, a woman still lives in the 1950s. Utter the word wedding and pictures of a family, cooking, cleaning float before our eyes. But, no, it isn't cooking or cleaning. Nor is it about nodding your head and pleasing your MIL. A marriage is a union, a partnership between two people and the responsibility is not always his or hers, but shared. There are many things a modern man needs to do to ensure the union is equal. But then, there are certain things every woman must learn and understand before getting married, too. What exactly are they? Read on...

5. Not Dragging the Husband in ALL Family Fights

This is one issue every couple goes through. The wife and mother-in-law don't get along. The mother complains to the son and the wife complains to the husband. In both cases, it frustrates the man. If you're facing problems interacting with the elders of the family, first try talking to them calmly and resolving the issue instead of dragging your husband between every argument. Sure, talking to your husband and asking him to resolve the issue will help but that too, needs to be done in a way that doesn't irritate him. Remember, he has to choose between a mother and a wife. Not exactly an easy choice. Also, if you keep cribbing all the time, it might lead to strained relationships within the household. If you're living alone and in-laws visit you on and off, don't make a sour face each time they come. Instead, try to give the son some time with his parents if you find it really difficult to get along with them. Being understanding and diplomatic is the key here. Tell him things that really matter but don't complain about every little disagreement.

6. Communicate

Communication is the key to every relationship. Yes, it is your husband's duty to keep you happy and vice-versa but how will the man know if you never tell him? Don't blame him for things not done or for not fulfilling your expectations. Instead learn to share your wishes and dreams. You are married to him and not a slave. If you don't like something he does, tell him. He might not even realise he's been doing it all this while. When you communicate and share, you make your marriage stronger. Also, don't just keep talking. Men are not generally people who use many words but they might have a lot to say too. Try asking him about his dreams and wishes and share things with each other. The roughest patches in a marriage can be sailed through if the partners know exactly how to communicate. You need to be able to communicate with not just your husband but even in-laws. Show them that you care. When you leave your house and go to a new place, you're feeling out of place. but also understand that your in-laws too have a new member in their midst and they might be scared about making you uncomfortable too. Show your appreciation through gestures. Call your extended family members and try bonding with them. You never know, you might find out that your MIL's youngest aunt is the sister you never had!